Friday, August 28, 2009

Love Languages

I just finished reading The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman, Ph.D and Ross Campbell, M.D. One of my friends from MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) suggested we read this book as a group and have a discussion group on the topics. The words she used intrigued me, she said, "They really do deserve it" (meaning our families). I borrowed the book from another friend of mine and have stayed up late to finish it in two nights (of course compulsively). I have literally read dozens of parenting books and this was by far the best one yet. There were several parts that brought tears streaming down my face. I would even go as far as to say it is life-changing, but I need more time to see if it has done that and if I will follow through. . .

Another part that hit home with me was about anger. I can be patient and kind for days and then suddenly have a total angry outburst. Unfortunately, many of my rages have been directed at Ethan because he is very, VERY strong-willed. Still, having parental tantrums by flying into rages and yelling, even spanking at times, is not what I want to model, especially for young boys who will eventually be full of testosterone. What is really eye-opening is when Ethan acts the very same way toward Dylan and I witness it. It's like hearing a tape recording of myself and let me tell you, it is not fun to hear.

There will be more to come about the love languages as I have more time to learn about Ethan and Dylan's love languages, as well as Goofy Hubby's.

1 comment:

  1. This is an awesome book. I have it in the parent check-out library at school. I am glad you posted about it because now I want to bring it home to reread it. I think there is a website called Five Love Languages or something and you, as an adult, can take the quiz or have your spouse take it to determine your (or their) love language. I did this on myself and the DH a few years ago. I does help us communicate better when I remember it. You are so right-on about the parenting things you said. It seems I'm always disappointing myself by getting angry even when I've told myself that isn't what I want to model or that it doesn't make the situation better. Thanks for your thoughtful post, pal. :0)